July 29th 2019
Learning to give yourself credit where credit is due~
I have a terrible tendency of not giving myself enough credit. I find it incredibly difficult to pat myself on the back when I see people around me doing so much better. If I do a good job at something, I often find myself fixating on the people who did it first or did it better or is still ahead of me. I do this with everything from blogging to work to relationships to just about everything imaginable.
For example, I hit 800 followers on this site the other day and although I’m proud of that, I struggle to feel overly proud because I know that there are so many other bloggers growing at a quicker rate than me. And although I am not comparing my success to theirs, I often put myself down for not pushing myself harder to excel at the same speed as them. That is why I am working on celebrating my small milestones.
I started a new job last week and it has been a real test of my ability to celebrate little things. For example, I am celebrating the fact that I asked for help without being asked if I needed help. I am celebrating the fact that my coworker asked if I wanted to drive with him to pick up lunch and I said yes. I am celebrating the fact that I got my first 2 weeks of posts for work done and ready for review. And honestly, I feel so much better about myself.
When you deny yourself the little wins in life, you miss out on the beautiful feeling of pride that comes with the little wins! Maybe you got a B on an exam and the person next to you got an A; be proud anyway! If getting a B is a huge improvement for you then it doesn’t matter what the person next to you got! Or maybe your friend is getting engaged and you just started talking to someone….celebrate your new venture and be grateful for your journey into love! Don’t feel like you don’t deserve to celebrate just because someone is ahead of you!
Everyone is at a different place on all sorts of journeys in their lives and if we all denied ourselves the ability to celebrate little milestones, we would never get the opportunity to experience joy. So who cares if you can only life 30lbs at the gym? You’re improving a little each day. Every little stepping stone to self-improvement deserves to be celebrated a little! Sometimes I even celebrate successfully making a phone call or setting up a doctors appointment because it is something that makes me anxious! Don’t belittle your accomplishments just because you don’t feel that other people would see them to be as exciting as you do.
Be proud of where you are and where you are going because the only life you have to live is your own, and you deserve to celebrate every little bit of it.