September 1st 2017
How I am trying to not become one of those girls who copes with getting older by getting bangs…
I feel like quarter life crises are becoming more and more prevalent in the lives of millennials. I think it’s because my generation (I’m 22, born in the year 1995 for anyone wondering) was the first to be brought up in the introduction to the social media age. We are the first generation young adults who are and have been exposed to life with and without social media during our adolescence.
In my parent’s 20’s they worked and they were completely blind to anyone’s life who they didn’t talk to regularly. Now, fast forward to my generation, I see every single thing that people post on social media. The big cushy jobs, the long term relationships, their killer bodies, fancy cars, money, trips etc. I’m exposed to all of that and that is enough to send anyone into a quarter life crisis.
With social media comes new pressure to perform. Constant reenforcement of the idea that people your age or younger are doing more than you, better than you. It makes you feel lame and old.
So how have I been working towards overcoming my super unfortunate, extremely stressful quarter life crisis? Well first, I remind myself how young I am. I am 22 and I have my whole life ahead of me. I have so much more time to succeed, figure life out, accomplish new things, etc. There is no need to be having this crisis. I tell myself that over and over and over again until I feel it in my bones.
The second thing I’ve done is I have thought about social media. I know you would probably expect me to say to stop, but no. I’m telling you to look at it. I’m telling you to pick a person you know, look at their social media, and ask yourself, “Is their life really like this?” Because most time the answer is no and most times they are probably looking at your social media feeling the same stress as you are feeling looking at their’s.
Third, don’t do anything drastic. I almost got bangs. I know I joked about the girls who get quarter life crisis bangs…but I was almost one of them! Now, I am in no way knocking bangs, I am knocking the haphazard “trying to reinvent myself” decision to get bangs. I was so stressed and in need of change that I almost jumped headfirst (literally) into bangs. Don’t do that. Don’t follow my example. I am trash.
And lastly, realize it’ll pass. You won’t be in a quarter life crisis forever. Put on your big boy pants or your big girl panties and get over it!
So overall, don’t freak out, don’t judge social media by it’s cover, don’t get bangs, wear pants, grow up!