The Big Plan

June 20th 2017

We’ll be scraping the skies with our fingertips
Screaming “This is the life, we were born for this” ~ Oh Wonder

I’m going to start this post out by revealing a little secret about my writing process. When I write I operate on a monthly schedule. This usually means that I schedule about 12 posts in advance to get my through the month. This process usually begins with me just writing titles and setting dates for them. I feel like the title is the backbone of whatever I am writing about so I follow my gut and write down whatever it tells me to then on days when I feel inspired, I write the post. I am revealing this little secret because I was hoping that when I got up to writing this one that I would have this big master plan for my life….but…I don’t.

I’m starting to think that the best plan is no real plan at all. I have found that by making too many plans, I have ended up feeling more disappointed than fulfilled in my life. Like I set all these deadlines and make all these goals then get stressed when they don’t pan out in the way I originally visualized.

So, disclaimer, this is not me saying that I am going to live my life with absolute reckless abandon and that I will never plan again. This is me saying that I think I need to set looser goals and deadlines for myself and plan in a more general sense than I am used to.

My original plan for my future put way too much pressure on me to meet these milestones that I have very little control over. I wanted to be married and have kids by the time I was 30 and I wanted to have a successful career with a specific company of my choosing before I even hit 30. In this day and age that is so hard to guarantee. And I am constantly growing and changing so my expectations of life have become so different that I have had trouble adjusting these plans to fit who I am now!

So, just now, as I have sat here, I have worked on a new big plan. Here it is:

• I want to get married when I am comfortable and financially stable enough to co-support myself and my partner.
• I want to have children when I can support them in an environment that is stable for them to grow up in.
• I want to get my yoga instructor certification as soon as possible.
• I want to pursue writing either on a recreational level or as a career.
• I want to explore my passions whenever time allows and take every chance to explore the world.
• I want to pave my own path for my future.

I feel like this new big plan is something I can easily get behind because it encompasses the things I want while not pressuring me with deadlines. Life has no deadlines and things will happen when they are supposed to.

But all hopes aside, I know that the world has a plan for me and it may not be what I expect it to be but I am ready for whatever is thrown my way. I am incredibly grateful for my story.

I am where I need to be right now and anywhere I go beyond this is the path I am meant to travel. I can’t wait to see everything my journey has in store.~

Jess