May 13th 2019
Actions speak louder than words~
The other night, I was talking to my friend, Angie, over video chat. I was venting to her about my upcoming move and the goals I hope to accomplish as a result of the move as well as a lot of personal things I have been trying to work out with myself. That is where the topic of this blog post came from.
I am a great sayer, but not a very good doer. That isn’t to say that I am not impeccable with my word; I just suck at taking my own advice sometimes. My mom has told me in the past that I should really read my own blog and take some of the advice I give to other people. However, as many of you probably know, that is way easier said than done.
I know what things I would love to fix about myself and how I could realistically get started fixing said things, however, whenever I hit the point of doing something, I sort of just freeze up. It’s not that I don’t want to do things to improve my situation, I just have this issue with the unknown that makes me too nervous to stray out of my comfort zone and try something new. My anxieties about what has yet to come have really held me back from being a doer in the ways I would like to be.
There are two parts of showing up for yourself. One part is saying what you would like to do. Putting the things you want to accomplish out into the universe is the first step towards manifesting your new reality. The second part is actually taking action to get yourself where you need to be and actually manifest what you want.
The song “Waving Through A Window” from the Broadway musical Dear Evan Hansen really sums up how I feel towards the whole doing aspect of showing up for myself:
I’ve learned to slam on the brake
Before I even turn the key
Before I make the mistake
Before I lead with the worst of me
I find that I stop myself from making changes in my life or putting hope into things or just doing in general because I am afraid that I am going to fail before I even start. As much as I have faith in my own advice and my own thoughts in regards to other people, I begin to panic about failing myself the moment that the attention is turned inward and I have to make a change for myself.
So let’s bring this back to the title of the post. What is so important about being a doer?
Aside from the fact that it is a vital part of showing up for yourself, being a doer also grants you experiences that being a sayer cannot. If I never try to pave my way to being who I want to be or accomplishing what I want to accomplish, I won’t be gifted with the experiences that come along the way. I can talk as much as I want about what I hope would happen for me, but if I never try, I will never learn the proper way to get there.
And being a doer does often come with failure, but failure isn’t forever. Failure also isn’t always bad. Sometimes the universe has us fail to see how much we want something or to show us that there are better things waiting for us elsewhere. But you would never know any of that if you never tried.
I have heard it said that we often criticize people for possessing the same qualities or behaviors we hate about ourselves. One of my biggest pet peeves is when people talk up all of the things they are going to do then never do them. I have been exposed to a lot of people who constantly have “big things happening” and then never follow through on them. I dread the thought that I will become one of those people, so that is why becoming a doer is so important to me.
I am determined to become the person I am setting out to be and fully showing up for myself during this really hectic and new chapter of my life.
How will you show up for yourself and be a doer?
PS- Thank you to LunaBirdBeauty for helping me come up with this post idea since I am struggling to keep my head on straight.